When Deno Fleno and her husband, Phil, are asked how many children they have, their responses differ. While Phil says he has two children, Deno replies that she has three; their son, their daughter and her husband.
According to scientific research conducted on 7000 American moms, the average mom rates her stress level as an 8.5 out of 10. And it turns out that for 46% of them, their main cause of stress is their husbands.
A 7-year-old is going to be a 7-year-old. But a 35-year-old acting like a 7-year-old is more stressful because they should know better.
I think everyone can agree that parenting is a difficult task, and when you combine it with maintaining a marriage it doubles the workload. Aside from prioritising your children’s needs, you also have to consider what your partner needs and it seems like this factor is getting pushed aside as duties become less evenly shared.
Moms increasingly feel like they carry the majority of the parenting responsibilities and worry more about the emotional wellbeing of their children and their progression into adulthood. Whereas fathers tend to take a more relaxed approach, leaving moms additionally stressed.
I am exhausted emotionally and physically when my husband comes home. He feels like another job.
75% of moms feel like they need to do the majority of the household chores, on top of caring for the children. This leaves them feeling like they don’t have enough time to do simple things for themselves, like take a relaxing bath.
But ladies, maybe the answer to your problems could be easier than you think. A survey targeted towards fathers reported that dads would love more verbal acknowledgement from their wives when helping out with parenting duties.
Therapist Hal Runkel says that the key to a happy ongoing marriage is to communicate openly with each other.
Marriage is a more difficult relationship than parenting.
If you feel like your stress levels are through the roof, talk to your partner and discuss what responsibilities you could share more evenly and maybe even designate an hour a day each to just do something for you. No kids allowed.
Despite the stresses parenting can bring, it is more than worth it to raise a child together.
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